voor de boyz

If you listen to a group of attractive, single
women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the
topic will always turn to MEN.

And in most cases, it will eventually turn into
a RANT session about how hard it is to find good
men to date...

Which will lead to a FULL-ON RAG SESSION about
men in general...

...And wind up with a detailed list of all the
traits guys have that are ANNOYING AS HELL.

The reality is that single women have an
entire laundry list of traits, qualities, and
characteristics that they HATE in single guys.

Did you know this?

I didn't think so.

Well, the truth is that up until a few years
ago, I didn't know this either.

So take heart in the idea that you're about to
learn something that most men on this planet will
DIE not knowing.

My hope is that what I'm about to share with
you will change how you interact with women
FOREVER... and help you meet and date more of the
kinds of women you're interested in.

Onward.


FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE

For women, friendships and romantic
relationships are two separate things. They are
NOT the same.

One can lead to another, but it's RARE when
it happens.

Remember that.

One CAN lead to another, but it's RARE.

"Romantic" relationships are very different
from "friend" relationships.

While most men would sleep with most of their
female "friends" if the woman "came on" to
them, most women would NOT sleep with most
men that they consider "just friends".

But why is this?

How do women differentiate between "just
friends" and "I'll be intimate with you"?

And why is it so hard to become "more than
friends" with a woman you've been "just friends"
with for a long time?

The answer to this riddle is very interesting
to me.

I believe that the answer comes down to
understanding HOW women "know" when they want
to "be intimate" with a man... and, even MORE
importantly, understanding how women "know"
when they DON'T want to "be intimate" with a
man...

The thing that tells a woman whether the guy
she's with is "friend" material or "lover"
material is how she FEELS.

It's a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and
PHYSICAL feelings.

It is NOT logic.

She might USE logic to "rationalize" her
decision... or she might USE logic to SOUND like
she has a good reason for either "being with" or
"not being with" a particular guy.

But don't let that distract you.

Logic isn't important AT ALL in this context.

So let me say this another way.

A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or
physically, then she uses those FEELINGS as the
basis for her "decisions" and actions with a
particular guy.

If she feels that "Ewwww Yuck!" feeling, then
her "logical" conclusion will probably not be
that she wants to date the guy in question.

If she feels that "It's Gettin' Hot In Here"
feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will
probably be that this guy is interesting and
attractive, and a good "choice" to date. At
this point she'll take ACTION on her feelings
and thoughts...

It goes like this:

FEEL--->THINK--->ACT

First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT... and
THEN the action.

Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an
important question:

How do most guys behave around women that
they're "romantically" interested in?

And another:

What do they do to get the woman that's the
object of their desires to be with them?

Take a few minutes to think about this. Make
a list if you have paper and pen handy.

I'm serious. I'll wait.

Come back when you're finished.

Now take a look at your list.

I'll bet that almost every single thing on
your list was something "external".

In other words, your list probably contains
things like "Take her to dinner" and "Give her
compliments" and "Buy her flowers" and "Call
her often".

These are all things that demonstrate that
he's INTERESTED.

They are NOT things that trigger those
emotional and physical feelings inside of a
woman that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY.

In other words, men try to use "props" to
LET A WOMAN KNOW HE'S INTERESTED...

...HOPING that when the woman sees these
displays she'll be interested in him.

Almost NONE of the things men do to court
women make women FEEL ANYTHING even remotely
similar to "Attraction" and "Arousal".

Of course, you know this.

You've probably done this stuff about a
bazillion times. I have, too. I know what it's
like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular
woman know that I'm interested... only to have
her NOT RESPOND in a "romantic" way.

The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that
it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once.

First, it's just the plain-old wrong way to
go. Telling or showing a woman that you "like
her" has no effect on how she feels about YOU.

In the moment it sure seems to make sense...
"If I show her how I feel, she'll return the
feelings".

Duh.

Like I said, it seems like the right thing
to do in the moment (when your inner little
girl has a big fat crush). But it's not... it
will have NO effect on her feelings for you.

And second, it communicates clearly that
YOU DON'T GET IT. It tips a woman off INSTANTLY
that you're not hip to what's going... and it
kills your chances with her.

Say what?

You mean that doing nice things for women,
and trying to show how you feel can actually
HURT your chances with a woman?

Yea, it can.

Look, if you've been dating a woman
exclusively for six months, and her birthday
comes... it's OK to buy her a gift and tell
her that you like spending time with her.

YOU'RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP.

But if you've known a woman for six DAYS
and you try this kind of thing, you're going
to shoot yourself in the foot.

Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who
DON'T GET IT. And if you DON'T get it, PLUS
you're trying to compensate for the fact that
you don't get it with gifts and compliments,
then you're REALLY screwed (or not screwed,
as the case may be).

Remember what I'm about to tell you.

Burn it into your mind.

Write it on a sticky-note and put it on
your computer monitor...

SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN
TRY TO WIN THEM OVER ALL DAY LONG. THEY
KNOW WHEN A GUY DOESN'T "GET IT"... AND
THEY'RE ANNOYED WHEN A GUY WHO DOESN'T
"GET IT" JUST KEEPS TRYING AND TRYING
AND TRYING.

Keep in mind that single, attractive women
watch guys do this stuff 24/7. They shake
their pretty heads and say "He doesn't get
it... He doesn't get it... He doesn't get it"
over and over and over.

The point is that if you DON'T GET IT,
then nothing you do is going to work for you.

The problem is bigger than you can imagine,
and you're going to need to take a totally
different road to get where you're going...


WHAT ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HATE MOST
ABOUT SINGLE GUYS...

Let's return to where we started.

There are a few particular things that
REALLY annoy single, attractive women.

One of the reasons that these things
annoy women is because they're DEAL KILLERS.

A woman can like everything about you, but
if you do these things (or even ONE of these
things), it can DESTROY your chances of
success with a particular woman.

Here are a few of the BIG things that
single women hate:


1) Giving Up Your Status In Exchange For
Her Attention And Approval

If I had to describe the one single thing
that both annoys women and DESTROYS a guy's
chances, it would be this.

It has taken me a long time to see this
particular pattern, but it's EVERYWHERE.

Men, in effect, say "Hi, I want your
approval and attention. I'm willing to let
YOU be the one who's in control... and let
YOU call the shots... and do anything to please
YOU... if you'll give me your attention and
approval".

But the problem is that women DON'T WANT
you to give up your status and "manliness".

Women aren't ATTRACTED to men who act
weak and tentative.

Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does
something to demonstrate that he'll give
away his power in return for approval.

THEY HATE IT!

I could literally write an entire book on
this one single concept.

Take a few minutes to think this one over,
and maybe write down the ways that you make
this mistake with women.

More importantly, think about how you're
going to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY.


2) Being Needy, Clingy, And Insecure

When one person "clings" to another person
"psychologically", the person who is being
"clinged to" RESENTS and REJECTS the needy,
clingy emotional parasite...

This is WUSS behavior at its worst.

If a guy is on the phone with a girl he
just met, and she says "Hey, I have to go",
he might say "Aw, well... um... OK. Um, will
you call me when you get home?".

Or let's say a guy and a girl are out on
their first date, and they're walking around
in a large department store.

Most guys will follow the woman everywhere,
and not leave her side for a minute.

If she wanders away, he'll come find her
IMMEDIATELY.

He'll stay physically close to her, as if
he's afraid she'll leave without him.

And an even worse example is a guy who is
so emotionally insecure that he actually
ASKS a woman to tell him that he's nice, fun,
interesting, etc.

"Do you think I'm interesting?"

"Do you think we could ever have a
relationship?"

"Am I your type?"

Women HATE this stuff. It makes them
shiver with the heebie-jeebies. It makes them
want to RUN AWAY.


3) Not Leading - And Even Worse, Trying To
Get Her To Lead

Women have WUSS-DAR.

One of the things that triggers a woman's
WUSS-DAR is a man who FOLLOWS.

The REAL problem is that most women won't
try to LEAD naturally.

So you've got a situation where a man is
trying to FOLLOW a woman who isn't LEADING.

He's looking for little cues so he knows
where to go and what to do... but he isn't
getting them.

So what does he do?

He ASKS for them!

He says "So, I was thinking of maybe
taking you to Olive Garden for dinner... how
does that sound?".

Everything about the way he asks says to
the woman "I'm trying to figure out what you
want me to do... please help me know how you
want me to act, where you want me to take
you, and what you want me to say".

This is ATTRACTION DEATH!

men who don't lead, and even worse, try
to get a woman to lead, ANNOY THE HELL OUT
OF SINGLE WOMEN.

They HATE IT!


4) Using Insecure, Approval-Seeking,
Low-Status Posture, Gestures, Voice Tone,
And Body Language

There's a term that single, attractive,
in-demand women use to describe men who use
weak, approval-seeking posture, gestures,
comments, and mannerisms...

The term is "NICE".

"He's nice... but... there's no chemistry."

This is one of those areas that's not
easy to talk about.

Since SO DAMN MANY GUYS do this stuff,
it's almost impossible to explain.

It's like trying to tell a fish that
they're not going to get anywhere in life
if they stay wet.

The fish doesn't even KNOW it's wet in
the first place.

But let me try.

This is important.

Go spend a day observing couples.

Go places where couples that have just
met spend time together.

Bars, clubs, coffee shops, whatever.

Now watch the GUYS.

Watch how they lean towards the women.

Watch how they raise their eyebrows in
exaggerated response to women's comments.

Watch how they slump over, let their
shoulders fall forward, and smile fake-ly
at whatever the women say.

If you're close enough, listen to how men
ask questions and make comments with a voice
tone that says "I'm insecure and I'm trying
to be extra nice to compensate for it".

You'll see it EVERYWHERE.

In fact, you'll see it so much that
you'll probably write me back to tell me
that I'm the one who's crazy, and that since
it happens so much, it must be "the right
way".

Well, it's not.

If there's one thing that triggers an
attractive single woman's WUSS-DAR, it's
a man's posture, gestures, eye contact,
voice tone, etc.

It all happens in an INSTANT.

Women read this stuff and interpret it
as instantly and accurately as you read
and interpret the cover of Playboy.

NO ANALYSIS NECESSARY.

I'd say that probably 90% of all men
alive today INSTANTLY disqualify themselves
with women because of this problem.

Their voice tone, gestures, posture, etc.
TELEGRAPH the message that they're a WUSS.

They do a thousand weird little things to
let a woman know that they're uncomfortable
and "not being themselves".

And you guessed it...

Single women HATE IT!


5) Not Understanding That She's A Woman And
You're A Man

I'm about to get philosophical on your ass,
so be cool.

When it comes down to it, most men don't
understand women.

But the REAL kicker is that most men don't
understand MEN, either!

Most guys don't know what it's like to get
in touch with their MALE NATURE.

Combine these two issues, and you get a
guy who behaves in ways that DO NOT trigger
ATTRACTION in women.

Women have a "nature". A female nature.

Men also have a "nature". You guessed it,
it's a MALE nature.

Women are coy. They like to play hard to
get. They like to enjoy the chase. They love
anticipation. They love to "let a guy catch
them"...

Men are competitive. Men are dominant. Men
like to play rough games, win things, and
rule their territory.

Well guess what?

Most men don't BEHAVE like men when they're
in the presence of a woman that they "like".

And since most men don't understand female
human nature, they don't demonstrate that
they "get it" when they're with women that
they "like".

Women like men. Men like women. There are
POWERFUL causes at play here.

When you're around a woman you like, don't
act like a GIRLY-MAN. It's not sexy, and it's
not attractive...

And single women HATE IT!


6) Not Being Interesting To Be Around

Underneath most behavior that I see most
guys acting out is a "core belief" that goes
like this:

"I don't believe that an attractive woman
would want to be around me just because she
enjoys my presence... so I make up for it by
saying and doing certain things that I hope
she'll enjoy... and if she enjoys those
other things enough, then maybe she'll want
to spend more time with me."

Heavy, man.

Well guess what? Most attractive single
women KNOW that if a guy isn't interesting
to be around, they she's eventually going to
go CRAZY being around him.

In other words, no amount of material
gifts, compliments, dinners, and other
"displays" will EVER compensate for a lack
of BEING INTERESTING.

Here's a profound thought:

I and several other guys I know have
many women who call us often... just because
they enjoy being around us.

These women would be happy just to be in
the same room with us... and enjoy our
company.

And yes, these women CALL US.

Often.

Material gifts, food, flowers, and other
"displays" have ZERO lasting value to a
woman when it comes to how she FEELS about
you...

An attractive single woman wants a guy
who LIGHTS HER UP. She wants to FEEL GOOD.

She wants mystery... she wants to laugh...
she wants a challenge... she wants sexual
tension...

If you're using compliments, gifts, food,
and other "displays" to get a woman's
attention... you need to ask yourself a
tough question:

Is it because you don't believe that a
woman would want to be around you just to
be around you?

Because if you don't know how to be
INTERESTING to a woman, then no amount of
compensation is going to fix the problem.

If you're boring, predictable, and
uninteresting, then you're never going to
have women calling YOU to hang out.

Oh, and women HATE IT.


7) Not Understanding Attraction

This is a BIGGIE.

You hear me talking about it all the time,
right?

Maybe now that you've read this newsletter
you'll have a better context to understand
what I'm about to tell you...

If you "get it" with women, it's SUPER
INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them.

Women can INSTANTLY FEEL IT when they're
with a guy who "gets it".

Women know very quickly if they're
talking to a guy who understands himself
and women... and who enjoys creating and
building sexual tension.

Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET
LANGUAGE of "Sexual Communication".

If he doesn't, then she stops all
communication on that level.

If he does, then it continues.

ATTRACTION Isn't A Choice.

Attraction is an emotional and physical
RESPONSE... and you can't "convince" a woman
to feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS.

Attraction is the result of a woman meeting
a man who understands how attraction works...
and who knows what to do in each specific
situation to progress to the next level.

The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION, and with
success with women in general is that the
things you need to DO to be successful are NOT
OBVIOUS.

They're "counter intuitive", in many cases.

In other words, they're the OPPOSITE of
what you'd THINK would make sense.

You have to do things like CREATE
TENSION... stop doing something that she
likes... give her time to miss you... etc.

And if you don't understand ATTRACTION,
a woman is going to KNOW IT.

And guess what?

Single women HATE IT when a man doesn't
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on this "other level".

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I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.






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